The following article is a text published by the renowned writer Paulo Coelho. Its content should be short and gives insight into what many of my patients, I explain about cycles ... Close from my perspective that covers the important process of elaboration of Mourning and often do not follow, bringing Open cycles that keep us moving forward.
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REACTIONS. For several years my office received letters from readers English language in many countries, in which I asked my text close a cycle. In recent years, from my office sent a copy of the column that once published in this space, under the title The cycle of joy.
DISCOVERY. One morning, opening my mail box, I saw the text calling stages of Paulo Coelho. Having never written anything like this, I searched online and found that it was a different title for the above Close cycle.
also discovered that for many years had been sending the wrong column readers, and they really wanted the text to transcribe continuación.No I was, unfortunately, who wrote the original, but I decided to adapt and now I can claim at least part of his responsibility: We must know when a stage comes to an end. Lengthen When we insist on more than necessary, we lose the joy and sense of the other stages we have to live.
Ending a cycle, closing doors, concluding chapters ... whatever name we give it, the important thing is to make it last moments of life they are done. Have I been fired from his job? Have you ended a relationship? Have I left home with my parents? Have I gone to live in another country? That friendship grew it so long, have you gone away? You can spend much time wondering why this has happened. You can tell yourself that you will not give a step closer to understanding why these things were so important in your life is suddenly turned to dust. But such an attitude will be a huge wear for all: your country, your spouse, your friends, your kids, your brother, all of which will be closing cycles, from page, looking forward, and all suffer to see you paralyzed.
MEMORIES. No one can be both at present and in the past, even when trying to understand what happened. The past does not return: we can not be eternally children, late adolescents, children with feelings of guilt or rancor towards our parents, lovers who day and night relive his relationship with a person who is gone for good. Everything passes, and the best we can do is go back to it. So it is so important (however painful it is!) Destroy souvenirs, move house, donate items to orphanages, sell or give our books.
Everything in this visible world is a manifestation of the invisible world of what happens in our hearts. Getting rid of certain memories also means freeing space for other things take their place. Leave forever. Release. Letting . Nobody plays this life with marked cards. Thus, sometimes we win and others lose. Do not expect you back what you gave, do not expect to recognize your efforts, you discover your genius, to understand your love.
Stop turning on your emotional television and watch the same program, which shows how you have suffered certain loss: that does not make it more dangerous envenenarte.Nada the breakups, we do not accept the promises of employment with no start date postponed decisions are always waiting for the "ideal moment."
let go. Before starting a new chapter must finish the previous one: tell yourself that the past never return. Remember that there was a time when you could live without that, without that person, that nothing is irreplaceable, a habit is not a necessity.
may seem obvious, it may be difficult, but it is very importante.Cerrar cycles. Not for pride, or disability, or for pride but because, simply, that no longer fits your life. Close the door, change the disc, clean the house, shake off the dust. Stop being who you were, and transform into who you are.
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